I think women are actually really awesome.
More specifically- wives.
The “weaker vessel” and yet such vehement creatures.
I believe the Lord placed a unique capability in each of us to fashion some incredible things in our encircling worlds.
But on the other hand, when misplaced, we can be the creators of massive distraction under our own roofs.
Have you ever thought about why Eve was literally created from Adam‘s rib? (Gen 2:22)
Some people say it is because the woman is to be protected and cared for.
And while I agree entirely with that, I can’t help but ponder on the main functions of the rib cage.
There are three; to protect the heart, to provide support and to aid in respiration.
What if wives were meant to do the same?
To protect the fragility of her husband’s heart, to be supportive in his endeavors, to facilitate things for him in allowing him to “breathe” rather than “suffocating” him.
I am not speaking to those in abusive relationships but to the women who find themselves in a healthy and safe environment.
We women, are told two things within the context of marriage.
We could either be the crown of our husband’s head or we could be the decay in his bones.
How?
Well I’m not sure about you but being the strong willed, stubborn and opinionated woman that I am, I am immediately humbled, this in any time that I read these verses:
“The wise woman builds her house [on a foundation of godly precepts, and her household thrives],
But the foolish one [who lacks spiritual insight] tears it down with her own hands [by ignoring godly principles].” Proverbs 14:1 AMP
“Better to live in a wilderness than with a nagging and hot-tempered wife.” Proverbs 21:19 CSB
“An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4 NASB
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And don’t even get me started on the verse that admonishes us ladies to be of a “quiet and gentle spirit”.. 😂😅
I used to think that meant we were to live like someone’s doormat at any cost.
But this is a common and sad misunderstanding.
You see, God never asked us to change our personalities, He said to allow Him to refine our character.
Humbly letting Christ lead us, speaking truth in love with respect, continuing to have the personality God has given but ultimately under submission to Him.
Have you ever been in the middle of an argument-emotions running high and maybe some mean stuff came out of your mouth that you later regretted?
I sure have.
We are warned that our words could either bring death or life and there are consequences for those who don’t use them with wisdom. (Proverbs 18:21 NLT)
So when we are charged to respect (or in some widely known translations, “submit to”) our husbands -
Could it be that it is not because our Father in heaven wants us to live oppressed, but because He knows what we are capable of and wants us to bring honor to him with what we do?
Perhaps our husband’s hearts are more fragile than we think.
Perhaps our words contain more death than we calculate them to.
Perhaps God created us to be their help mate because he knows it would be more beneficial this way. (Gen 2:18)
Perhaps the gene which we inherited from Eve, rebellion and sin, fights with that of Sarah ‘s, who feared the Lord.(1 Peter 3:5-6)
It is not a tragedy, but an honor to be wife, help mate and “crown of jewels” to our husbands and we must understand the incredible responsibility that comes with it.
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”
Proverbs 31:30 ESV
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